do what you love, and other strategies to reduce stress

Someone once said, "The only difference between a diamond and a lump of coal is that the diamond had more pressure put on it." If that were the case, we should all be shining brightly by now. Sure, stress can motivate us to get things done that's the upside. The downside can be really ugly. Stress, according to a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine, can sometimes lead to physical problems, such as high blood pressure, and accelerate some effects of aging. And we all know stress may contribute to emotional upheaval irritability, anger, even depression.

Here are seven easy strategies one for each day of the week to help you meet stress head-on and conquer it:

Breathe. Yes! It's that simple. Breathe deeply, but don't hyperventilate. Inhale as though you were sniffing a delightful scent. Then stre-e-e-tch your arms high over your head as you slowly and completely exhale.

Set Boundaries. Just like the stressed-out mom who sat in the playpen to keep away from the children, you can erect some barriers. Decide what you will do and when. Better still, decide what you won't do and dare to say "no." Try to avoid anything, and anyone, who wastes your time.

Clarify Your Goals. Decide exactly what needs to be done, and plan a smart way of accomplishing each task. Oh, and give yourself a big tick on the calendar every time you achieve even one of your goals, no matter how small.

Put Yourself First. That's right! If you aren't functioning at your peak, your work and your relationships will suffer. Find time for yourself, and try to do at least one relaxing thing each day: Take a bubble bath, or read a chapter of a favorite book.

Give Yourself a Break. It's okay to goof off, cancel a lunch date, or miss a deadline now and then. In six months or 10 years, who will remember?

Get Spiritual. Get in touch with your spiritual values, and align your plans and activities with them. For instance, read an inspiring book, and then figure out how to incorporate what you learned into your day-to-day life.

Take Five. Right now stop what you are doing to cherish the moment. Savor whatever you're drinking or eating. Or go outside and smell the air, the flowers and the trees. Feel the wind, sunshine or rain on your face. Listen for tiny sounds. Take a moment every day to marvel at the wonders all around you.

Many of us think of happiness as a luxury, but in reality it is essential to health - beyond the margins of simply not being sick. In the immortal preamble to the Declaration of Independence, Thomas Jefferson wrote: "We hold these truths to be self evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness." These glorious words actually pointed the way to embrace wellness by being responsible, taking control of their lives and focusing upon optimal outcomes, not merely a coping existence. This was an early mind/body perception of well-being - and if that’s not wellness, what is?

When you think of this immortal sentence, it automatically feels a little happier and a little healthier. So take a deep breath, smile and ponder Jefferson's phrase yourself. Then take these 10 simple steps to add a little happiness and health to your life:

1. Exercise More. Besides whatever else you do for exercise, take the stairs when possible, walk briskly or jog in place naked! Any one or a variation of these activities done for a total of 30 minutes daily could make you happier -- especially the latter! By the way, the latest research suggests that it is a less familiar neuro-modulator called norepinephrine, not endorphins, which provides that natural "feel good" sensation with exercise. Whatever it is, enjoy it!
   
2. Rub Somebody the Right Way. Arrange for a massage at least once a week. A 30- minute massage is not very expensive and you can always do a trade. (This is one case where giving can be as good as receiving.) A good massage is a definite happiness booster.
   
3. Take Charge of Your Brain! Organize your thoughts in positive ways. Thinking this way will help you make the best of whatever occurs throughout the day. It will add to your happiness and reduce any tendency to flee into misery.
   
4. Act Childish - When Nobody’s Looking. Do something you enjoyed as a kid that you have not done for years or decades. You don’t always have to be dignified, mature, adult and serious -- especially when you are alone or with another playful adult. Dress up in something wacky, blow bubbles; throw a theatrical temper tantrum, etc. Anything that will give you a good laugh.
   
5. Instead of Blessings, Count your Chuckles! Discover if you are fit for humor by seeing if you can record at least 10 good laughs at least one day out of seven. Laughs count a lot toward the pursuit of happiness. Mirthful times will lower your blood pressure, stress level and worry index and raise your energy, spirits and optimism. Laughter and assorted pleasures strengthen your immune system, metabolize bad vibes and serve in 1001 ways to make your everyday life richer and fuller.
   
6. Celebrate Differences. Work at appreciating the diversity of appearances, styles, religions, politics, values and opinions at variance with your own. This is one of the most effective ways to eliminate negative stressors. We are all inclined to make subtle judgments and even efforts to change people to think or be more like ourselves. Yet it’s almost never worth the grief. Live your own life and wish others well in trying to do the same. A high tolerance level will definitely make you happier.
   
7. Discover the Meaning of Life! Well, at least decide to go on a lifelong quest to gather insights about why you’re here and what it’s all about. Rely primarily upon the rich database of your own life experiences, observations and reflections. As new possibilities suggest themselves over time, stay open to readjustments to ideas about your life purpose and ways of finding meaning. But please don’t try to persuade others to accept your interpretation - it’s a personal thing.
   
8. Be of Service, for Your Sake. Frankl, Maslow, Yalom and dozens of other psychiatrists, existentialists and assorted scholars urged engagement for mental health and happiness. In your own fashion, reach out and make a difference in someone else's life by supporting a cause, helping the needy, working with a kid - anything.
   
9. Pick a Hero. In fact, look for lots of heroes -- people you can admire and even emulate, in some ways. It's not a good idea to adopt a single hero, for everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Think of traits you value and the people who manage those qualities with dignity, panache and flair. When you want to function at your best, think of your hero. How would he or she deal with this? Then do your own version, with the role model (hero) in mind.
   
10. Seek Inspiration. Look for it in the familiar. Start with the familiar scenery, sounds, aromas and multiple blessings you already enjoy. Recall Gilda Radnor's needlepoint message revealed in Gene Wilder's book "Funny About Love": "Contentment is not the achieving of what you want but the realization of what you already have."

Happiness follows good works. Live a healthy lifestyle and do good work.

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